CB & I were chatting over coffee (or beer… it trades off every convo we have), as we ran into the inevitable content of dating history. We exchange stories of do’s, don’ts, and turn-offs. In the effort of getting to know or re-know someone, it’s proven more beneficial to get a grasp of their dislikes… first, as opposed to appropriating what they enjoy or like, and move from there.
Flashback: CB & I attended South High School together. Strutting different sides of the cafeteria and social field, I never really knew-knew CB, I only knew of her. Now, due to the 9th wonderment of facebook, we’ve somehow found our social footing based off a music video compliment and a random run-in at the Twin Cities’ potentially most dilapidated venue (Tiffany’s in St. Paul. No hate, it’s just I feel like Marty McFly when I step in the joint. The interior design, old bathroom cubed windows bordering the far bar, and the casino lighting… it can’t not scream Back to the 80’s). Either way, CB and I reconnect via online coincidence & real-time path-cross and shoot the shit every now and then.
When our discussion turns toward dating, attraction, blah blah blah, CB raised an unintentional point in the midst of referencing a past pseudo-boyfriend. “Wait- so were you dating the guy? Or were you two not together?” I questioned, in an attempt to get on the same page with her. Which it should be pointed out, that although you might think you mean the same as someone else when saying “seeing”, “dating”, “together”, “steady”, “kickin’ it”, “talkin’”, “hollerin’”, whatever jargon that suits your cultural palate at the moment, but it will absolutely amount to NO DICE unless you throw that shiz down in an one-on-one discussion. Man-up homie! Tell her, or him, to put-up or shut-up… maybe not in those exact words (yes I’ve said it before, and been told it before), but at least to the affect of “This is what I want, this is what I see as fair, can you meet me halfway?” CB digressed, looked to her left (the pragmatic side of the brain), “Na, we weren’t really together at all, I mean it’s not like we went grocery shopping together or anything like that…”- and it set on me… Grocery Shopping- ahhh yes, at the intersection of long-term & “jus’ kickin’ it”. CB had just laid the complex to rest in a simple staggering statement of grocery shopping with a significant other equating long-term commitment & trust.
Think about it for a minute. You grew up grocery shopping with family and/or close friends, liquor store shopping with family (depends on the family) and/or friends you planned to have a drink with throughout the evening, and damn-sure never redboxed a movie with someone you didn’t plan on watching it with. Film, food, & liquor- the flagship of any pre-planned evening, and not a single thing you’d share with someone you couldn’t stand to spend the next few hours with, let alone the entire night.
But to break it down, getting a movie with someone is easy as having to not look at them or listen to them for the next 2 hours while you watch a Hollywood spectacle bedazzle your laptop screen, or television (If you own one of those electric dinosaurs. I only rock DVDs on the laptop, it just makes sense homie… you can hate later when televisions go extinct.) Catchin’ a flick together is definitely bonding and says something, just not enough to say “I only plan on “kickin’ it” with you for the rest of the week(end)”. Which brings us to the liquor store. Yes, shopping for evening debauchery is bonding, it can bring enemies & strangers together (circle for better or for worse, here). During my 1st junior year in college, I never felt more a connection to my roommates than when we bought a keg together to throw our first house party… and then never felt like going Wolverine on them more than when we threw our first house party. Making plans to do the damn thing is great… just make a plan to still be able to stand each other by the end of doin’ the damn thing.
To the point, going grocery shopping with a friend or significant other damn-near seals the deal. You’re going to cook together, eat together, share food together, and share a domestic plot of roofed land together. I’m hesitant to type it, but grocery shopping is pure love- that shit is unconditional- goes as far to say you might get into a blowout verbal cannon exchange, but it’s nothing that can’t be resolved in respect to the bigger picture- for the sake of spending time with each other- for the sake of having an end in mind. Grocery shopping with someone you’re dating, seeing, or in a relationship with is on some team s—t. If I were to go shopping for groceries with a significant other at this moment and time, and we were in the check out aisle, I’d most likely glance at a People’s Mag, check out the what’s-hot-what’s-not section, put the mag down, glance over at the girl, wink, and just before the cashier was finished ringing up our lengthy line of epic edibles, I’d wink at her and say something to the extent of “Hey. You’re the baddest chick in this m----f-----n’ Cub Foods.”
I digress, kinda- however if you find yourself out with your significant other at a Rainbow, Aldi, or on some upper-end shiz like Kowalksi’s then you should most definitely lean in and tell them something appreciative/creepy/funny.
Caution: The rule of grocery shopping as a means to defining your stately relationship as a stately relationship only works if you both split the bill, or take turns buying. Paying for someone else’s groceries is a gateway to sugar-daddy downhill debt, or (in a female’s case) scrub-support.
SHAMELESS PLUG:
Big Show comin’ up, I release 18 tracks of mixtape good-God goodness – SATURDAY, APRIL 30th @ THE CABOOZE, 9PM
Tickets in Advance $10, Tickets at the Door $12
Tickets in Advance are available at Fifth Element (2411 Hennepin Ave. S.) or ONLINE HERE http://www.ticketfly.com/p
Oh, and here’s a new vid!!! Adam and I recorded it on the fly while shooting the music vid for “Ashley” song from an upcoming mixtape) HERE
Flashback: CB & I attended South High School together. Strutting different sides of the cafeteria and social field, I never really knew-knew CB, I only knew of her. Now, due to the 9th wonderment of facebook, we’ve somehow found our social footing based off a music video compliment and a random run-in at the Twin Cities’ potentially dilapidated venues (Tiffany’s in St. Paul. No hate, it’s just I feel like Marty McFly when I step in the joint. The interior design, old bathroom cubed windows bordering the far bar, and the casino lighting… it can’t not scream Back to the 80’s). Either way, CB and I reconnect via online coincidence & real-time path-cross and shoot the shit every now and then.
When are discussion turns toward dating, attraction, blah blah blah, CB raised an unintentional point in the midst of referencing a past pseudo-boyfriend. “Wait- so were you dating the guy? Or were you two not together?” I questioned, in an attempt to get on the same page with her. Which it should be pointed out, that although you might think you mean the same as someone else when saying “seeing”, “dating”, “together”, “steady”, “kickin’ it”, “talkin’”, “hollerin’”, whatever jargon that suits your cultural palate at the moment, but it will absolutely amount to NO DICE unless you throw that shiz down in an one-on-one discussion. Man-up homie! Tell her, or him, to put-up or shut-up… maybe not in those exact words (yes I’ve said it before, and been told it before), but at least to the affect of “This is what I want, this is what I see as fair, can you meet me halfway?” CB digressed, looked to her left (the pragmatic side of the brain), “Na, we weren’t really together at all, I mean it’s not like we went grocery shopping together or anything like that…”- and it set on me… Grocery Shopping- ahhh yes, at the intersection of long-term & “jus’ kickin’ it”. CB had just laid the complex to rest in a simple staggering statement of grocery shopping with a significant other equating long-term commitment & trust.
Think about it for a minute. You grew up grocery shopping with family and/or close friends, liquor store shopping with family (depends on the family) and/or friends you planned to have a drink with throughout the evening, and damn-sure never redboxed a movie with someone you didn’t plan on watching it with. Film, food, & liquor- the flagship of any pre-planned evening, and not a single thing you’d share with someone you couldn’t stand to spend the next few hours with, let alone the entire night.
But to break it down, getting a movie with someone is easy as having to not look at them or listen to them for the next 2 hours while you watch a Hollywood spectacle bedazzle your laptop screen, or television (If you own one of those electric dinosaurs. I only rock DVDs on the laptop, it just makes sense homie… you can hate later when televisions go extinct.) Catchin’ a flick together is definitely bonding and says something, just not enough to say “I only plan on “kickin’ it” with you for the rest of the week(end)”. Which brings us to the liquor store. Yes, shopping for evening debauchery is bonding, it can bring enemies & strangers together (circle "for better" or "for worse", here). During my 1st junior year in college, I never felt more a connection to my roommates than when we bought a keg together to throw our first house party… and then never felt like going Wolverine on them more than when we threw our first house party together. Making plans to do the damn thing is great… just make a plan to still be able to stand each other by the end of doin’ the damn thing.
To the point, going grocery shopping with a friend or significant other damn-near seals the deal. You’re going to cook together, eat together, share food together, and share a domestic plot of roofed land together. I’m hesitant to type it, but grocery shopping is pure love- that shit is unconditional- goes as far to say you might get into a blowout verbal cannon exchange, but it’s nothing that can’t be resolved in respect to the bigger picture- for the sake of spending time with each other- for the sake of having an end in mind. Grocery shopping with someone you’re dating, seeing, or in a relationship with is on some team s—t. If I were to go shopping for groceries with a significant other at this moment and time, and we were in the check out aisle, I’d most likely glance at a People’s Mag, check out the what’s-hot-what’s-not section, put the mag down, glance over at the girl, wink, and just before the cashier was finished ringing up our lengthy line of epic edibles, I’d wink at her and say something to the extent of “Hey. You’re the baddest chick in this m----f-----n’ Cub Foods.”
I digress, kinda- however if you find yourself out with your significant other at a Rainbow, Aldi, or on some upper-end shiz like Kowalksi’s then you should most definitely lean in and tell them something appreciative.
Caution: The rule of grocery shopping as a means to defining your stately relationship as a stately relationship only works if you both split the bill, or take turns buying. Paying for someone else’s groceries is a gateway to sugar-daddy downhill debt, or (in a female’s case) scrub-support.
SHAMELESS PLUG:
Big Show comin’ up, I release 18 tracks of mixtape good-God goodness – SATURDAY, APRIL 30th @ THE CABOOZE, 9PM
Tickets in Advance $10, Tickets at the Door $12
Tickets in Advance are available at Fifth Element (2411 Hennepin Ave. S.) or ONLINE HERE: http://www.ticketfly.com/purchase/event/35985
Oh, and here’s a new vid!!! Adam and I recorded it on the fly while shooting the music vid for “Ashley” (a song from an upcoming mixtape) HERE http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l_fEHIN97Y4
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